You are never stuck in the suck! Unstuck yourself!

If I had a dollar for every time a client came to me and said, “I feel stuck” I’d be a much richer woman.

We’ve all been there. I, myself, recall a time when I felt stuck because I was in a toxic work environment. My boss was a crazy woman. A crazy bully woman. It was her life work to feel power over everyone around her and succeeded more often than not. During an especially hellish work trip, I locked myself in the hotel bathroom, splashed cold water on  my face and said to myself in the mirror, “You are only stuck if you allow yourself to be”. I remember being so surprised at what came out of my mouth. Not just what, but how. My tone was beyond confident-defiant really. My whole body felt empowered when I said it. It wasn’t a question, it was a declaration of strength, courage, and commitment to take my life back. I don’t really know where it came from-somewhere down deep inside-a place that knew more than I remembered. How wise that place was-much wiser that the place that had me going back to a job that was killing me because “it was the right thing to do” or because “I was so lucky to work there”. Fuck that. Those messages of social acceptance had me way off course. My guess is they have knocked you off course a time or two as well.

The truth is this-you are never stuck. Never. If you are-it’s because you are allowing it. We stick with things that don’t make us happy, affect our health, or make us feel numb because we get in our own way.

3 ways to Unstuck yourself.

1.       Remember that you are only stuck if you allow yourself to be. You always have options. ALWAYS. It may seem like you don’t and they may not be the best case scenario or the most desirable, but there are options available to you. Don’t convince yourself you don’t. That is you allowing yourself to remain stuck.

2.       Feeling stuck is mindset. If you get to a place you feel stuck, I want you to reach up to a higher, more positive feeling-bring it to your heart and sit with it for a bit. If you sit with a feeling of liberation, feeling free, and living in a way you haven’t feel brave enough to yet you will notice a huge difference in the way you feel. Hold onto this thought and feeling and bring it back whenever you are feeling like you can’t move.

3. Take small steps. Write down every possible option you have without censor or judgement. You can get to sorting part later. First, just get them all on paper. Once they are out, you may realize you have more options than you realized.